Well, that’s it. My latest wee book baby has just been dispatched into the big, wide world of religious/spiritual literature.
Frankly, it’s a bit of a relief to have it finally fly free into the hearts and minds of its present and future readers?
Really? How come?
Well, I much prefer to write of Divine Love and its compassionate Otherness, rather than tackle the painful issues of religious addiction and spiritual abuse. I’m a bit of a mystic at heart, happy to spend my days walking in the solitude of Silence, drinking in the vibes of both Self and Source. I’m much happier penning a wee poem, than delving into the dysfunctional world of religious group dynamics and control.
And yet, these topics must be considered and brought into the Light of day. Many thousands have travelled the same path as myself, and it mainly for those that I write. Those who gave their early life energy to a particular take on the Christian faith, one that ultimately proved to be delusional and debilitating. In the idealism of youth, we are prone to follow Christian gurus and their packaged theologies. Sometimes, we grow out of it without any signs of inner angst, sometimes not. It is for this later band of the walking wounded that I’ve written ‘Jesus, Junkies & Abuse’; the burnt-out ex-devotees of the Christian world.
Recently, an old Christian friend of mine got in touch with me, a little upset that I keep writing about these difficult issues. Encouraging me to ‘get over it’, as he himself had done through years of psychological counselling, he admonished me to move on. A still dedicated, albeit more open-minded member, of a large Belfast Charismatic church, he just can’t understand why I keep going over ‘old ground’. Now, I can understand where he’s coming from, and yet I reckon that the topics concerned aren’t merely personal, but ones that must be aired and regularly discussed by the Christian community at large.
On a personal level, I have moved on, although the scars of my past religious zealotry will remain with me till the day I die. My somewhat sensitive heart will always be toward my fellow pilgrims, those who have ditched Jesus and his God along with the abusive religious bath water. If my wee writings can encourage those damaged by dysfunctional religious belief and practice to somehow re-engage with the Nazarene and his Source Divinity, then my literary efforts will not have been in vain.
For those who have to ‘put up’ with the evangelising, somewhat targeted zeal of friends, family and work colleagues, I’ve tried to explain the religious adherent’s mindset, so as to better understand them, and find a way of ‘coping’ with their constant salvation nagging. Let’s be honest, it’s not easy, sharing the same psychological space with a religious junkie. Not easy at all. The protection of Self and its inner space must be paramount, as we’re bombarded by guilt and shame, the dual conversion tools lobbed towards us in a frenzy of evangelistic concern. May JJ&A help such targets of Christian love maintain their sense of psychological equilibrium in the face of such constant manipulative pressure.
So now it’s back to walking among the forests and hedgerows of rural England. For it’s there that I pick up the faint whisperings of Glory, the One outside the minefield of metaphysical rivalry and religious warfare. Hopefully there, among the leafy shades of early Autumn, I can recharge my batteries and find the inspiration for what comes next!
With much love
Your friend
Dylan
Still waiting for my copy, but know that it will certainly be worth it. Keep writing! We all need to hear this message…:)
Thank you Florian. Do let me know how you get on with JJ&A. A wee review perhaps once you’re done? I’d be honoured.
🙂 Dylan
Will do, as always…;) REALLY looking forward to it…
Wonderful Florian! Much appreciated.
🙂 Dylan
Just ordered a couple of copies (cause I’m pretty sure I will be giving away copies). Haven’t been checking wordpress very often lately, and I don’t remember what prompted me to follow your blog, but glad I did. You were in my reader this morning, and so here I am…
I married into what you are writing about, so I am very interested to read the book. Will definitely let you know my thoughts. Thanks for writing about this!!
Meg
Wonderful Meg. Greatly appreciated. Glad that my wee musings strike a chord with you.
Do let me know how you get on with JJ&A.
🙂 Dylan
I read both JJ&A and The Prodigal Prophet. Loved them. Gave a copy of each to my sister-in-law, and a copy of JJ&A to my husband.
So many of your experiences and conclusions ring a bell with their family experience. Details are a little different, but the same concepts going on. It is much easier for me to see all this as an observer and someone who did not grow up with all that baggage. For 30 years I have watched this family evolve, and watched some family members transition out.
Within a family, the beliefs and loyalties and external approvals are all so much more personally important and entrenched. Rejecting the “system” feels like rejecting/abandoning the family, especially when the family can’t separate the two. What a mess. As an outsider, you can support someone through it, but they have to do it at their own pace and in their own way.
I could talk for hours about this. If you get working on that book about people being born into the situation, I would be happy to be a sounding board or help out or whatever.
I’ll keep you posted on the feedback I get as they finish the books.
Thanks so much!
Meg
Thanks for dropping by Meg and posting your most insightful comment.
Yes, our involvement in faith groups can have a huge influence on our family dynamic, causing dysfunctional relationships can leave their mark for the rest of our lives. Guilt is such a big issue and tool of control in many religious families that they often fragment, never to be repaired.
With the god of the group in the mix things get so very toxic so easily.
Do let me know how your sister-in-law and hubby get on with the books.
I’d be honoured if you felt up to writing a wee review of TPP or JJ&A or both on Amazon. Apparently they do give folk the courage to risk reading books of largely unknown writers like myself.
Blessings ~ Dylan