Yesterday I looked at how an aspect of our mothers or fathers seem to lurk within us, only coming out when we are under stress. I called this little subconscious aspect a sub-personality that is part of our overall survival personality – like an emergency fireman lying around a fire station waiting for the bell to ring.
How did this aspect of our parent’s make up get inside us in the first place?
In our infancy the sense of Self is embryonic. The significant others in our development at this time are usually our parents. When unconditional love is transmitted to us our Self begins to form, gaining a sense of OKness that will help us in later life.
If, however, the flow between our parents and us is a conditional form of love or acceptance, then the developing Self is twisted in its development. Such trauma for the developing infant calls for drastic action. The Self fragments into numerous parts called sub-personalities. One such subpersonality is the parent in me formed when the infant’s subconscious logic argues like this:
My mother/father have rejected my Self – I will absorb part of their personality as my own. They don’t reject themselves so they will no longer reject me for I will be a mirror reflection of their own Self.
Such is the process whereby dysfunctional subpersonalities pass down the generations – a generational curse or what?
How to escape this syndrome?
More to follow.